"When someone tries to shrink you, don't meet them down there."
Jasmine Crockett meets Captain Sharon Raydor = Badass Woman
I asked myself today, just about an hour ago: “What do you want your clients to do?”
The answer that finally came was that I want them to be free, to feel free, to be themselves in the face of sexism rampant through the ages, to be courageous in their willingness to pay with external pushback for practicing their freedom and authenticity.
That’s what I want.
I want badassery. I want women to dare to show up, stand up, speak up. And I want them to be themselves. And I want us to do this individually AND together.
That said, there is word out around the social media water cooler that there was an interaction between Jasmine Crockett and Kash Patel that makes me incredibly happy. Sadly, I can’t prove that it’s true - it may just be AI. But I’m going to tell you what their conversation is said to have been, because I want to highlight something we need to understand so that we can do this in our everyday lives.
It’s called sticking to the facts. Yes, it takes incredible focus on the goal, but when you know that there is a game happening and it’s not yours, you can learn to stand to the side of that unwinnable game, and stick to the facts.
So here’s what this AI video said:
Mf’er Kash Patel said to her, “Sit down, girl”.
“Mr. Patel,” Jasmine is said with to have uttered with calm quietude, “you may be used to silencing women in rooms where no one challenges you, but I promise you this isn’t that room.”
I can’t prove that this happened. But I don’t really care because the point is that this is the place we need to be standing: In. The. Truth.
Not taking the emotional bait.
And this is something we can do when we understand two main things:
As a woman you are under constant attack from the social messages that surround you and that you have taken in as warning signs to keep you safe in recognizable situations. However, if you understand that this game is made for you to lose, you can recognize that you cannot win this game but can exit it, be a spectator watching one person try to play all alone, while you stick to what is true. Imagine what that would do for your conversations and negotiations!
The truth speaks louder than any amount of volume you can bring to your voice. Look for the point of the conversation from your point of view and make sure that that point is your point and you will not be derailed. Look for the point of the conversation to be one that you hold in calm determination, knowing its core truth because you have done the work of taking your power back from the emotions that would have you imbalanced.
This actually happened for me once. I think I’ve written about it before, so forgive me if this is a repeat for some of you.
I had taken my new business cards to a small shop to print. I was living in California and this was just before uploading your printing jobs online became the thing to do. When I went to pick them up, the design was ever so slightly skewed and I pointed it out and said I couldn’t pay for them.
The young man behind the counter started yelling at me. In those days I didn’t have as much moxie and access to my anger as I do now, so I would have expected to be frightened and shrink from his words, but I didn’t. Instead, when he yelled, “You ordered them, so now you have to PAY for them!” I calmly said, “No. You should have called me to check and see if they were right.”
And in the middle of him ranting at me, he just … stopped. He stopped talking, ranting. He looked at me is if I had thrown water on him. And I walked out.
Imagine having that kind of alignment with your truths.
And come to my workshop on July 2nd. “Can You See Me Now?” 6:30-8PM EST where we will learn what allows you to have this kind of perspective, how to practice being the kind of woman who can hold her own by knowing what her own actually is, and learning how to hold to - and choose - our strengths in all situations with the power of emotional self-awareness and choice.
Because we need to be standing now. This is not a test. This is Badassery 101, and you are it!
I see you!
