Speaking of fun - sure you know what it is for you?
Day 19 - Whose Fun IS it?
This morning I spoke to my friend, Alex, who is a genius Affiliate marketer. More importantly he’s an awesome human and a lovely, lovely man. I asked him, “Hey, I want to start some kind of group for women leaders, but I want it to be FUN. Have you ever been in a group like that which was fun for you?”
After some thought he said, regretfully, “Well…no…” and laughed. So did I. I mean, how do you have FUN making money, starting a business, when so much work is involved?
He’s working himself mercilessly and I thought I saw a “hmmm…” thought-bubble rise over his head when I said I worked as hard as I could for decades and it didn’t work for me, so I was going for the fun even in the building.
By the end of the conversation, I had the sort of vision-bubble around the Visibility group I’m going to start. Here’s the cool part: We didn’t even really discuss it. We talked about other business things and somewhere in there he sparked an idea in my whole being!
Fun, American-style
There was a show back in the 1970’s, I think it was, called “Love, American Style”. Fun has become defined as things that distract you and take you away from it all - certainly a nice state of affairs, but in my opinion most limited!
By the way, you’re invited to another *free* workshop - this one on June 24th at 7PM EST (90 minutes long) - on Facebook. It’s about the framework of what I call the “sea in which we swim”. When you see it, you can begin to experience it differently, and when you experience it differently, you can choose to have an entirely different relationship to it. It’s called “Goodbye Good Girl: Let Your Light Shine!” This one is in a Women’s Entrepreneurial Group - the woman who runs it, Jini, is my kind of gal: she and I see so similarly, and she’s ready to call out the things that stop us, so I’m very happy to contribute to her group! PLEASE JOIN ME! I’d love to see you there!
Sure, I can go to a bar and drink beer, or I can go out and party, or I can go out and visit another country. These are fun things to do! But if fun doesn’t touch my soul, I’m not really on any kind of major roll!
If I’m not lit up, is it really “fun”?
Fun, Lori-style
I already told you yesterday that I’m offering 30-minute tarot readings, right? $25 for this beginning situation, and it will be lovely fun. Things that make me smile and play and also tune in and be of use! Love that.
And the idea Alex isparked, that gets to be fun NOW. There’s a very specific reason why, today, though. It’s because I made one of those 1% shifts after a very exhausting day yesterday and I said to myself, “Whatever I do for my business, I’m not doin’ it if it’s not fun!” So today, I took my idea and I started playing with it in my head, and letting it make its way to the front of my mind AS A FASCINATING ENERGY OF FUN.
I DIDN’T go straight to “how do I make it financially viable” - which is really some kind of accomplishment for me, I can tell you, because when I align with “I need money” I get absolutely nowhere but backwards. And I did that for too long.
Check this out - what a nice mental antidote to going straight for money/goal
“Keep your dreams malleable,” Tilda Swinton says. Getting too fixated on the goal is a toxic masculine practice I’m happy to be learning to give up!
This is how you start to look at the world in a way that allows you to see the toxic and instead choose a kinder, calmer, more self-caring choice.
Because it’s small, it can be tough to even see as powerful. But that’s the mistake that’s been made about the feminine for millenia: the feminine - the small step, the kindness, the inclusive, the visionary - is where all of our power lies.
